Questions

Questions can be submitted in one of two ways.  First, you can make a comment in any of the posts or in this question post.  I will attempt to put up new question posts from time to time to keep that at the top for easy access.  Second, you can email any questions to paul.belding@gmail.com if you are looking for a more private question that you do not want posted to the blog.

Thanks and I hope to hear from you soon!

DD one name MANY reasons (What is it and Why)

So you may be asking what is DD and why do people do it.  Those are both very good questions and both have tremendously complex answers.  I will go through some rather simplistic answers and hope that questions from you will help fill in any unanswered questions as well.

What is DD.  Well to answer this question there are some things that I will describe that ARE DD and just as importantly some things that I will define as NOT DD.  Again these are my opinions and there will be some who probably disagree, but knowing where I stand will help anyone reading understand how my definitions color my responses.

DD is domestic discipline.  Within DD there is a wide range of how people choose to carry out what they define as DD.  DD has two distinct roles.  There is a Head of Household (HOH) and their partner.  There are DD relationships in both heterosexual and homosexual couples but I will quickly admit to you that I know very very little about homosexual DD relationships.  If you are looking for advice or guidance in that area I will be more than happy to answer what I can and find resources where I am lacking.  At this point I need to make sure that I explain and differentiate a HOH from several other types of relationships.  A HOH is not master/slave relationship.  Not even close.  DD is also not simply just a sexual kink.  You may or may not yet know that DD is typically linked with spanking.  It is important to note that spanking does not mean someone is involved in DD and not spanking does not exclude someone from being in a DD relationship.  Spanking is one of the most confusing things in the world of DD and I expect there will be many times that it will be discussed both here and in relationships everywhere.

So with a few small potential questions discussed I invite men, women, young, and old to fire away with questions.

A Vanilla Husband

No, in the context of DD vanilla doesn't mean I like ice cream.  In DD there are two common terms to describe one's interest or predisposition to DD.  Vanilla and Wired are these two terms.  I am a vanilla, and understanding this fact is important to understanding my point of view in everything that I will write.  Vanilla is as the flavor might suggest boring  :-)   Wired is the person in the relationship who is predisposed to some or all of the facets of DD.  In my marriage my wife is the wired one.  For us, this means that she brought DD to me and wanted for us to introduce it into our lives.  You may be here as a man who has no idea what DD is or how to react to being told this is something your wife is interested in implementing in your marriage.  Please know that this can be an excellent forum to ask questions and get answers.  When Jenna (my wife) brought DD to me I wanted to learn quite a bit to understand what she was looking for from me, and I was looking for the perspective of someone like me.  Hopefully this blog can help accomplish that goal.  So whether you found this blog on your own or you have been gently nudged here by your partner feel free to ask and learn!

The Beginning

This is the first in what I hope will be a long future of posts on the topic of Domestic Discipline.  Over these first few days of this blog's existence I will attempt to answer several questions that you might have as readers and also better explain what I am hoping to use this blog to accomplish.  First, know that if you are looking for information or simply to ask questions about DD this is the place.  My opinions are based upon my personal experience and certainly are not indicative of a greater DD community.